Trump Is a Psychopath: American Democracy or Twilight Zone?

Originally published at The Huffington Post I’ve been in the United States for three months now and I’ve had a chance to witness political fever first hand. Media propaganda is on a mass scale compared to back home in England where you might get a mail in the post about the election, but engagement here…

Summer LA Look Book

A summer spent in California is not complete without a photo look book..      

29 Questions to Ask on a First Date: Fuck Small Talk:

1. What’s your favourite colour? Why? 2. When you see yellow at a traffic light, does it mean”stop” or “speed up”? 3. Is technology your best friend? 4. What’s the most beautiful place you’ve ever dreamed? 5. Have you ever had a conversation with your ego? And if so, what did it say? 6. Do you…

Don’t Let Overthinking Consume You: Fear of Fear

There is a great Buddhist saying and it goes something like this “Man begins to worry because he worries that he has nothing to worry about”. Have you ever been totally happy or at peace and then begun to worry for no apparent reason? It is ridiculous to think that we create our own conflict in…

10 Facts of Darwinian Evolution Everyone Should Know

“I don’t want to believe, I want to know” – Carl Sagan. 10. Beyond a shadow of doubt, human DNA and chimpanzee DNA are 98% identical. We diverged from the same common ancestor 5 million years ago. This isn’t idle speculation, it is a fact bound up in deductive logic. We are the modern descendants of…

You, Yes, You! I See You.

If you go pretty long without anyone seeing you, you can start to really question if you exist. People need to be seen, heard, understood. Today I learnt that you can increase a premature baby’s chances of surviving simply by stroking the back of its head every couple of times a day. Touching is necessary for brain…

The Real Truth About Dutch Racism: Life as a Moroccan

Originally published at The Huffington Post If you ask the average Dutch person what they think about racism in the Netherlands, the usual answer is “We have no problem here!”. In Amsterdam where I’ve been living since 2015 over 150 different cultures reside together, rather harmonically. In Amsterdam the immigrant Turkish, Suriname, Antilles, Moroccans and…

The Case Of Vivian Maier: Why Eccentric Introverts Are Awesome

An example of Maier’s captivating street photography Originally published at The Huffington Post I recently came across a documentary film about a self-taught street photographer from the 1950s who died before realising how much fame her Rolleiflex twin lens camera would bring her. Vivian Maier shot over 100,00 photographs all while being a nanny and living a…

Letter To My Future Self

I know you are scared. You have realised the thorough extent of your power and now you know who to expense it to wisely. You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do. So use the moment and continue pleasing your future self. You can make your own happiness and the only thing limiting…

Perfect Dangerous Match: The Narcissist and Borderline

Enablers (super-givers) tend to be narcissists Narcissists enjoy the enabler role (fixing compulsion makes up for core deficit) Narcissists enjoy giving more than receiving Borderlines who also have a core deficit serve as the perfect unstable candidate for ‘rescuing’ by the enabler narcissist A Borderline is dysfunctional enough to seduce narcissist into “saving” her while both are essentially fooling each…

Coping With Perpetual Sadness

One day I received an email. It moved me. First, I was honoured that my post was received so well by someone who felt connected enough to open up to me. Secondly, I was shocked because I did not have an answer for my reader. The answer itself was baffling to me. I can now say with…

The Badass Woman’s Manifesto

Baddass Rule N1: Step forward. Don’t shrink back. The whole world wants you to quieten down, minimise yourself, be softer, more gentle, less demanding. Women are a powerful force and all the oppressors are aware of this. The boldest step you can take is showing that there is no force in the world strong enough…

What You Need To Know About Your Mind

“So plant your own gardens and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers” — Jorge Luis Borges.  Thoughts are a beautiful thing. They are expressive, insightful and overall useful. Thoughts are also egoistical, anxious and fearful. My political psychology professor once described the brain as an electrical motor (running constantly)…

Sorry I Don’t Personally Care About the Illuminati..

Too many times I have been involuntarily thrown into a discussion about the “Dark side” of humanity… dun dun dun.. it’s the illuminati! Well here’s my view: Yes. There are organisations and cults in the world that have economic and political sway causing mass power to remain in the hands of the few. You can call…

Put Your Phone Away and Communicate! A Critique of Excessive Digital Use

Originally published at The Huffington Post There is a now a list of mobile phone disorders created by East Asian phycologists which includes physical and mental addictions to digital devices. There is even a “phone rehab” where people are sent to when they cannot control their addiction any longer. It is all too common to joke nowadays…

Why Narcissists and Borderlines Fall In Love

The Tendencies Narcissists and Borderlines Share, Differ and Are United In: [Women tend to be Borderline and men tend to be Narcissists] Narcissists (NPs) enjoy being understood Too much understanding frightens Borderlines (BPs) BPs have extreme openness and vulnerability Passion and intense emotions are livening to narcissists because they have deep emptiness resulting childhood neglect that stops them from…

7 Dutch Boys in Tokyo

“Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer” I’ve come across many projects while living in Amsterdam for the past two years. Not one has caught my eye as much as a new project by the name of 7 Dutch Boys in Tokyo. 7 Dutch Boys in Tokyo is a fun web…

There Is No Such Thing As Knowing Yourself

“What a man can be-  he must be. This NEED we call Self-actualization” Throughout your life you will be asked questions which relate to your character and personality. You can never escape who you are, and when the debate arises about which self-concept you apply to yourself, it’s not easy to give a definitive answer. If…

Three Surprising Reasons Why Emotional Pain Is Power

Originally published at the Huffington Post UK Everyone feels pain, I feel it, you feel it, throughout our lives pain has been a constant. We are not sure why we will feel pain, but we definitely know when we are feeling it. I have always been fascinated by emotions and pain has stood out to…

Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Night Before You Sleep

“Who was I today?” “Did I love today?” “Did I hurt anyone?” “Did I hurt myself?” “Did I do wrong to others?” “Did I punish myself?” “Why did I punish myself? “Am I pursuing what I want?” “Did I forgive?” And lastly.. “What did I do today to be the change I want to see in the world?” If…

Philosophers Are Not Useless: Challenging Neil deGrasse Tyson

The controversial Nerdist podcast of Neil deGrasse Tyson interview: Interviewer: My concern here is that the philosophers believe they are actually asking deep questions about nature. And to the scientist it’s, what are you doing? Why are you concerning yourself with the meaning of meaning? (Another) interviewer: I think a healthy balance of both is good. 1st Interviewer:…

How Everybody See’s The World

      Mohadesa Najumi    © The Existentialist: The ‘how’ is not as important as the ‘why’. The Philosopher Both the ‘how’ and the ‘why’ are constructions of the human mind. The Social Scientist We can use the ‘how’ to understand the ‘why’. The Pragmatic Realist Use the ‘why’ to justify your ‘how’. The Buddhist…

Accepting Life’s Uncertainty: Letting Go of Fear Of the Future

  “Every day I wake up, I have different teeth, different muscles, and I am a wholly different person. How do you expect me to fit into words and languages when I am sounds, movements, activity, being, becoming. On a fundamental level, we are all just the essence of the Universe being acted out in…

On Feeling Like Not Existing Anymore

Often we forget that political and social consciousness carries with it a certain burden. Now, I don’t mean this in the pretentious with-great-intelligence-comes-great-responsibility way, no, because I believe that everybody does have the capacity for political and social consciousness. But the fact remains: some of us are more aware of the imminent problems the world faces than others. For…

Thinking and Being (A Short Poem)

Not only can I not think straight, I can’t think curled, jagged or horizontally. I can’t think long enough to make sense of what i’m thinking and i can’t think hard enough to make sense of why i’m even thinking it in the first place. My head is just a whirlpool that resists both stagnation…

The Relationship Between Pain and Addiction: A Short Essay

Recently I have found myself pondering on the ways in which humans deal with pain. There are many theories and postulations on the way in which we manage, project and repress our trauma, but the statement that rings most true to me is this: “The attempt to run away from pain creates more pain” Studies…

Existentialist Realisations

“This Nothingness that you’re fearing, is precisely the one thing that makes your life worth living. This lack of meaning to life grants you the authority as the sole junta, totalitarian, and dictator of your own journey” – Michelle Lara Lin Franz Kafka postulated: “You are free and that is why you are lost”. I have long…

Why We Need To Appreciate Our Own Aloneness

A great writer once said; “The only way out is in”. This is certainly true today as everyone takes his or her own individual path towards escapism. We are all trying very hard to escape our daily lives, or even worse, ourselves. We do this through staring down at our mobile phones every chance we…